But isn't it dishonest to give the appearance of friendly self-comfidence when we don't actually feel that way? Perhaps,but according to Dr.Zunin,"total honesty" is not always good for social relationships,sepecially during the first few minutes of contact. There is a time for ev-erything, and a certain amount of play-acting may be best for the first minutes of contact with a stranger. That is not the time to complain about one's health or to mention faults one finds in other people.lt is not the time to tell the whole teuth about one's opinions and impressions.
Much of what has heen said about strangers also applies to relationships with family members and friends.For a husband and wife or a parent and child,problems often arise during their first four minutes together after they have been apart.DR.zunin suggests that these first few minutes together be treated with care.if there are unpleasant matters to be dis-cussed,they should be dealt with later.